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I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m Hillary, some people call me Hilla. My mom called me Hilla.
I was 27 when she passed away. I remember so much about that day. Sitting in her hospital room, pacing, stretching, reading articles on my phone about ‘how to be with someone when they die’, I didn’t know how to do it.
As I navigated the days, weeks, months after my mom passed I dove into grief work. I knew there were five stages and I vowed to my therapist to have them done in six months. Spoiler alert-you cannot declare to be ‘done with your grief’ in a particular timeframe. I learned that in approximately six months and one day.
In the three years following her death, more grief, loss and transition followed. What I slowly began to learn was there was no roadmap. No roadmap for grief, no roadmap for life. Life had thrown me some serious curve balls.
A few months after she passed away, I started yoga teacher training. Inquiry work and self awareness is a large part of our practice so we did a lot of journaling and peeling the layers of our internal onion. I loved it. That was probably my favorite part of training. Sitting in a circle and talking about our feelings, asking questions to learn more about ourselves and the real truth around our way of being. Truth be told, I’ve always been interested in human behavior, but I had reached a new level.
I dove into more learning. I read books about grief, trauma, took classes, tried new therapies for processing, cried (a lot), questioned things, dreamt weird dreams, I was in it. I became fascinated with how our brains and bodies store and process feelings and trauma, and with empathy and connection, and where our loved ones go when they die, are they ever really gone? At some point I realized I was actually deeply enjoying this work. I was loving this work. But trust me, if I could have gotten here without loosing my mom I would have preferred that, but that was not my journey.
Her death, this trauma, this transition, this experience, it lead me to this work. She lead me to this work. She lead to where I am now, who I am now.
Empathy, kindness and understanding are at the forefront of my practice. I will always remind you that you are okay. You are okay.
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I started this practice, to help people through their grief and transitions. Working together will start to bring peace, purpose and light back in your life. In time, it is possible to feel joy, happiness and love. Those feelings don’t mean you loss doesn’t matter anymore, or that you no longer miss what you’ve lost. It simply means your grief is changing, and you’re experiencing your loss in a new light and love. You are okay.
I’m a Certified Life Coach through the International Coaching Federation, as well as being a Certified Grief Educator. I completed my 200 hour Registered Yoga Teacher Training in 2018 and I have a BFA from Savannah College of Art and Design. I’m a Boston native, who’s found home in Savannah, Georgia after a few trial and errors of zip code changes. I love the ocean and find comfort in the salt air and ocean waves. I love pretty much anything with bubbles-particularly champagne, sparkling water and Grey Goose and soda with a twist. I’m second generation from Germany, my German language skills are passable depending on the day and my French skills are lukewarm at best. In 2017 I married my person, my partner and husband, Ryan.